If you or someone you know has lost a child, at any stage, to miscarriage, infertility, genetic disease, stillbirth, SIDS, or an unknown reason, here are some resources that might be helpful.
There is a large loss community that we only discover, sadly, when we join the horrible one-in-four statistic of pregnancy and infant loss.
You don’t have to do this alone. If you need support, there are moms out there who understand what you’re going through. I’m one of them. Be gentle with yourself. If you need space, take space. If you need to talk, we’re here for that, too.
Carly Marie Project Heal. Carly Dudley is a mom, and loss mom, who dubbed a beach near her New Zealand home Christian’s Beach in memory of her stillborn son. Her site is magical, beautiful, and full of projects, resources, other links and art to help parents heal.
One thing Carly does is write your baby’s name in the sand during a sunset, which she calls the Seashore of Remembrance It costs $20 for a name, and a little less for a butterfly, which she decorates beautifully with precious stones. It’s a great way to memorialize your child. We did it for Henry and have it displayed in our living room.
Small Bird Studios is where Franchesca Cox lets the legacy of her daughter Jenna live on in the ‘beautiful mess she left behind,’ and offers support to recently bereaved parents. She’s friends with Carly Dudley, so their sites have a similar feel. Franchesca’s site is full of fun stuff and loss. Her and Carly also share a card line for bereaved parents, siblings, and grandparents: http://smallbirdstudios.com/
Faces of Loss, Faces of Hope is a place to tell your story, put a face to pregnancy loss, and remove taboos. You can add your story to their site. They also stress how common pregnancy and infant loss is: http://facesofloss.com/
Still Standing Magazine gives grieving parents a place to write about their experiences http://stillstandingmag.com/
The Centre for Reproductive Loss is an intelligent site with very useful information. I enjoy most their insightful page on what NOT to say to grieving parents: www.crl-rho.org
Mothers in Sympathy and Support is an international group supporting mothers going through a similar experience. There are local chapters, maybe you can find one close to you?: http://www.missfoundation.org/
Pregnancy and infant loss, a closed facebook group where you must request permission to join, I guess to prevent spamming to remain sensitive to the loss community. I’m a member and I’m so thankful to be free to express myself, unhindered, without worrying about the stupid comments people make about the nature of my loss.
If you know other groups you think I should include here, please leave me a note in the comments section and I’ll add them!